Take the issue of unconditional love. Is unconditional love a reality? Objection: Love requires an object, and an object is a condition. Possible solutions: (1) Love without an object - is this a contradiction of terms? (2) Love without condition as to object, i.e. universal love. Objection: Does love not create conflicts of interest? To love a specific object may be to defend it against others. Possible solution: For love to be unconditional the lover needs to have sufficient wisdom to act in a way that is optionally beneficial to all beings.
This solution depends upon believing that there is a "good" that is best for all and that even if this results in the destruction of some individuals it is actually best for those individuals in such a situation to be destroyed. That is to say, it implies a view of the universe inwhich there are no fundamental conflicts of interest - what is good in an ultimate sense is good for all and the corollary is that sometimes it can be good to be sacrificed.
The alternative is to believe that there are in reality conflicts of interest, that the universe is actually a place of conflict and conflict is real. What is for the good of one is not necessarily or always for the good of all others. This, of course, accords with common sense, though common sense is not always a good guide to ultimate truth.